The Verdict

Tell us what happened. We'll tell you what we think.

Send John and Nicole your situation. Each week they pick real ones and answer them on the show: his take, her take, and where they land. You get a straight answer, even when it's the one you were hoping not to hear.

First name

We never say it on the show.

So we can tell you if we pick yours.

What do you want a verdict on? What's going on?

A few sentences is enough. Tell it the way you'd tell a friend who won't lie to you.

Before you send You can read my situation on the show and in clips, with my name and identifying details left out. Email me the verdict episode and one real situation a week. I can unsubscribe any time.

We can't answer every one. We read every one.

We got it.

Check your inbox in a few minutes for an episode close to what you told us. If it isn't there, look in spam or promotions and drag it to your inbox so the next ones find you.

What happens next

You get an episode today.The one closest to what you just told us, in your inbox within a few minutes.
If we pick yours, you hear first.We email you before it airs, so it doesn't catch you off guard in your feed.
One email a week.A real situation, the verdict, and the new episode. That's the whole email.

Recent verdicts

The kind of thing people send

CheatingCheating drunk: a mistake or a choice?

Red flagShe won't let him read her novels. Red flag?

BoundariesGirls' night at the club: harmless?

Fair questions

Will anyone know it's me?: No. We leave out your name and change the details that would identify you or the other person.
Do you answer every submission?: No. We pick the ones that the most people are quietly living through. Either way you get the weekly email, and most weeks one of them will be close to yours.
Is this therapy?: No. It's two married people telling you honestly what they see. If you or someone else is in danger, call your local emergency number or a crisis line instead of writing to a podcast.
What if John and Nicole disagree?: They do, often. You hear both sides and you decide.